Managing Your Kitten’s Rough Play

Managing Your Kitten’s Rough Play

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Play-motivated aggressive behaviors are common. Play provides young cats with opportunities to practice skills they would normally need for survival.  Kittens learn how to inhibit their bite from their littermates and their mother – a kitten that is separated from her family too early may play more roughly. In addition, if humans play with a young kitten using their hands and feet instead of toys, the kitten will learn that rough play with people is okay. It is possible to teach your kitten that rough play isn’t acceptable behavior, however.  Here’s how:

Encourage Acceptable Behavior

  • Redirect your kitten’s aggressive behavior toward acceptable objects like toys.
  • Drag a toy along the floor to encourage your kitten to pounce on it, or throw a toy away from her to give her even more exercise chasing the toy down.
  • A good toy is one that your kitten can wrestle with, like a soft stuffed toy that’s about the size of your kitten, so she can grab it with both front feet, bite it, and kick it with her back feet. This is one of the ways kittens play with each other. It’s also one of the ways they try to play with human feet and hands, so it’s important to provide an alternative play target.
  • Encourage play with a “wrestling toy” by rubbing it against your kitten’s belly when she wants to play roughly – be sure to get your hand out of the way as soon as she accepts the toy.

Since kittens need a lot of playtime, try to set up three or four consistent times during the day to initiate play with your kitten. This will help her understand that she doesn’t have to be the one to initiate play by pouncing on you.

Discourage Unacceptable Behavior

You need to set the rules for your kitten’s behavior, and every person your cat comes in contact with should reinforce these rules. Your kitten can’t be expected to learn that it’s okay to play rough with Dad, but not with the baby.

  • Use deterrents to discourage your kitten from nipping. You can either use a squirt bottle filled with water or a can of pressurized air to squirt your kitten when she becomes too rough. To use this technique effectively, you’ll always need to have the spray bottle or can handy. You can either place one in each room, or carry one with you as you move around the house. Remember that deterrents will work only if you offer your kitten acceptable alternatives.
  • Redirect the behavior after using the aversive. After you startle your kitten with the aversive, IMMEDIATELY offer her a toy to wrestle with or to chase. This will encourage her to direct her rough play onto a toy instead of a person. We recommend that you keep a stash of toys hidden in each room specifically for this purpose.
  • If the distraction and redirection techniques don’t seem to be working, the most drastic thing you can do is to withdraw all attention when she starts playing too roughly. She wants to play with you, so eventually she’ll figure out how far she can go if you keep this limit consistent. The best way to withdraw your attention is to walk away to another room, and close the door long enough for her to calm down. If you pick her up to put her in another room, then you’re rewarding her by touching her. You should be the one to leave the room.

What Not To Do

  • Attempts to tap, flick or hit your kitten for rough play are almost guaranteed to backfire. Your kitten could become afraid of your hands, or she could interpret those flicks as playful moves by you and play even more roughly as a result.
  • Picking up your kitten to put her into a “timeout” could reinforce her behavior because she probably enjoys the physical contact of being picked up. By the time you get her to the timeout room and close the door, she has probably already forgotten what she did to be put in that situation.


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